Tim Butler

Counselor, Life Coach & Speaker

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Free Download: Wheel of Life

How Balanced Is Your Life?


Once you’ve completed each category, connect the marks to see how balanced your life is right now.

A perfectly balanced life would be represented by a perfect circle.

But life isn’t perfect. Is it? Use what you find out to set new goals for yourself. Be specific in goal setting. Repeat the process to keep track of your improvements.

Why Invest in a Life Coach?

Maybe by process of elimination I can help you answer that question:

  • I do not suggest a Life Coach if you have all the answers to life’s complexities 
  • I do not suggest a Life Coach is you want to stay exactly where you are now, financially, emotionally, vocationally, spiritually, physically, and relationally
  • Definitely do not hire one if you hate looking at yourself in a metaphorical mirror

OK. So you get my point. 

Life Coaching is not for everyone. However, it can be a game changer for those who present with the following characteristics:

  • You love gaining new insight in your life
  • You are going through transition and need an objective professional opinion
  • You need someone to hold you accountable to the plans you make
  • You are a procrastinator and are slow to make any plans
  • You need inspiration and motivation
  • You want to know why you’re consistently making the same self-defeating mistakes 
  • You listen to your emotions more than the realities in your life, and you hate that about yourself

Now I could go on, but clearly there is a lot of room in most people’s lives for personal improvement.  Life Coaching will not solve all your problems. Actually, it really won’t solve any problems, but, it will give you the space, direction, and encouragement that you need to analyze and improve your life. 

By definition, Life Coaching sheds light on your current trajectory and habits and provides you with objective insight that can help you remove roadblocks. It will show you where you are now, and where you need to go. 

Life Coaching will help you establish your own priorities and an action plan(s) that you can—and will—put in place. I say “will” because the very fact that you put forth the time and money to hire a Life Coach says a lot about your readiness. 

A Life Coach helps you stay focused and on target. A good Life Coach should only want the best for you that you can create, and never attempt to make you a clone of his/her life. 

Life is very personal, but should not be lived in secret. 

Open yourself up to the objectivity of a trained opinion and see if you can move forward in ways you may have not thought of previously. Or, jump on the opinion-train that claims that Life Coaching is a waste of money and is only good for letting someone else tell you what to do.  Who needs that?

Your call. If you make it.

Spring Cleaning

Spring is right around the corner for those of us in the US. After such a difficult winter for many of us, the thought of a coming change in environment seems even more encouraging. January and February usually show the highest utilization of mental health services. Those months seem more depressing when we have limited sunshine, colder temps and snow that lingers well past the time when it was pretty and white.

Winter does not “make” us depressed, it can simply darken whatever gloom might be lurking in our soul (emotions) already. As one proof of this, it might surprise you to know that the highest months for suicide are not until April and May. The rationale behind this may be related, in part, to the simple fact that spring did not “fix” the troubled soul. Combine this with the reality that others around us who are only mildly affected by weather, have moved on to happier moods. Weather simply exacerbates whatever is going on already.

The key to any season is to manage ourselves such that we are able to rise above the external pressures that may discourage us. I have listed 5 considerations for staying fit emotionally throughout all the seasons. See which ones of these most relate to you, and determine to provide the best self-care possible.

  1. Proclaim the truth: Be honest with yourself and your friends in terms of your feelings. Contrary to popular conviction, better living does not come through denial. Knowing the truth, and beginning to deal with the truth, will start you on a path to freedom.
  2. Pull from others: Be ready to receive input; be teachable. Oftentimes others might see a side of you that you do not see. There is hope and help in a social community.
  3. Process whatever is in the rear view mirror of life; get help processing past hurts and disappointments. We all have something in our past that was not helpful, and in varying degrees, may have been very hurtful. You are not alone. Left untreated, these events can easily define you in a negative way, or, with help, can be used to carefully shape you into a healthier person.
  4. Practice good habits for a healthy body, soul, and spirit. We all have the exact same three core components. How you invest in each will significantly affect your quality of life. They do not run on automatic pilot; they need intentional care and maintenance.
  5. Prioritize your life for maximum efficiency; you can simply work hard, or you can learn to work smart. Make the main things, the main things. Sometimes the smallest details matter, but more often than not, they serve to distract us from the more important items.