Tim Butler

Counselor, Life Coach & Speaker

Fighting For Your Marriage

Married? Planning on getting married anytime soon? Finding marriage harder than you thought? You are not alone.

Marriage is an institution created by God in which He designed two very different people and told them to live together—in harmony. Does that sound easy? Not always. But there are some definite do’s and don’t in the winding road of marriage.

This Sunday, 6/7, I will be speaking on the topic of Fighting for your Marriage at Cedar Creek Church. Come hear what to do that will go a long way toward making your marriage as divorce-proof as possible. Clearly, your spouse can always leave you, but find out how to be the kind of person your partner would want to be married to, and not leave.

These days, when you hear of a fight breaking out as it relates to one’s marriage, you likely think the worst. Why wouldn’t you? Approximately 50% of all marriages in America end in divorce. Most television and movies portray marriages in disarray, fighting over petty things and damaging families. Our court system keeps a steady stream of cases trying to juggle the many complaints for divorce that come through their doors. Sadly, some divorcees think that the issue was solely their spouse and simply turn around and get remarried. That’s where we see an even steeper downward cycle because 60% of second marriages and 74% of third marriages end in divorce.

Married people spend most of their “marriage repair” time in trying to fix or change the other person. As I ask my patients in my counseling sessions, how’s that working for you? Changing other people is so over-rated, but yet we try to do it all the time.

Did you know that how you manage conflict is the greatest predictor of how well a marriage will be lived and how long it will last. Add that to the fact that over 60% of conflict in marriage never goes away, and you have an idea of what you will hear this weekend.